Searching for a gift for your brother, dad, boyfriend, or husband can be a tough task, but the editors at Real Simple have done some of the hard work for you and selected a bunch of options for the great guys in your life.
Whether he is an enthusiastic sports fan or more of an urban trendsetter, we have got you covered with plenty of options to choose from. If music is his thing, how about a warm beanie with built-in Bluetooth headphones? Or, if he is a George Lucas film buff, thrill him with a set of socks that feature characters from the Star Wars franchise. And if you are hoping to find something suitable for his office workspace (desktop Skee-Ball, anyone?) or a present to help him savor his time off (super-soft merino wool sneakers), we have got options for those, too.
What about the other men in your life, like a good friend, a former boss, a welcoming neighbor, or even the dog walker, you ask? The editors have come up with some gift options suitable for those guys as well. No matter what you are looking for, this gallery will surely inspire you with present ideas beyond the basic and boring tie.
That said, if a tie is what you are looking for, don’t let us stop you! We have even included a knit tie in the mix to make sure our selections for men are completely well rounded. Relax, we have got your gift-giving needs covered.
What do you do if your future Mother In Law (MIL) is making your wedding planning a nightmare?
Have you ever had a “whine and cheese” session with an engaged girlfriend about her nightmare future mother in law? Or perhaps it’s your fiancé’s mom that scares the bejesus out of you when you think about what it’s going to be like to plan your own wedding. Especially if she’s the type of person that makes a simple family gathering for Thanksgiving a nightmarish process.
You can’t avoid her completely because, let’s face it, she’s your fiancé’s mother and technically a wedding VIP. But there are ways to make things a little better, and you’re going to need your fiancé’s help!
Set boundaries from the beginning.
If neither set of parents is helping plan (or helping pay) and you don’t want them involved, make that clear from the beginning by kindly letting them know you’ve got it all under control. You only have to give as much detail as you want to give. But don’t let it create a rift in your relationship.
Give her something to keep her busy.
If you don’t want her involved in the wedding planning and she’s gung-ho to get right in the middle of it, figure out what exactly you can let her take over that won’t really matter to you and let it be her “baby.” Invitations are a time-consuming pain in the butt but if she’s willing to stuff and mail them, let her do it.
Pick your battles.
Try not to complain to your fiancé about every annoying email you get from your future mother in law, but if something is over-the-top, don’t hesitate to forward it to him and discuss how to handle it. Try not to get into a war with your fiancé’s mother over something that is, honestly, only one day in the thousands you will spend married to each other.
Don’t talk badly about your fiancé’s mother to his friends and family, even if they initiate it.
Not every cousin may love Aunt So-and-So, but the last thing you need is for that cousin to repeat your own snarky remark to her mother and have it get back to your future Mother-in-Law. Let them say what they will, but don’t agree and don’t contribute. Just file away what you’re hearing for research purposes. It may come in handy later.
Try to initiate some wedding-related tasks with your fiancé’s mom if she’s dying to be in the mix.
Bring her along when you shop for china — you don’t have to actually register for anything she suggests. If she really wants you to register someplace specific because of her friends who will be sending gift, play along. It won’t kill you to pick some over-the-top gifts if she wants to buy them or knows her friends will. If she actually does know flowers better than you, bring her along on your consult. Just remember you don’t have to take her advice.
“Please tell me what to wear to our photo session!” That’s the first thing I often hear from clients after they book a session. Figuring out what to wear can paralyze people and make procrastinators out of even the most efficient preppers. There’s a few basic things I advise clients to take into consideration when choosing outfits.
1. Colors: Choose a color scheme with your location in mind. You don’t want your clothing to clash with the surroundings or for any one person’s outfit to distract from the rest of the family. I recommend picking one main color with two supporting colors and a neutral to tie it all together.
2. Patterns: Now that you know your color scheme, throw in a pattern to break-up the monotony of solids. A solid merlot top and gold scarf can look fabulous next to a neutral plaid.
3. Home Decor: What you plan to use your photos for can, and should, dominate your color choices. If the end-goal is to frame and hang them, take into consideration your home decor. I have a yellow front door, gray walls and blue accents. So my portraits include those colors.
4. Gifts: If you plan to use your photos on your holiday cards, why not gift framed prints too? Parents grandparents and godparents, will always love up-to-date photos that are ready to hang!
And remember, if all of this still seems overwhelming to you, bring your dog. No one will even notice what you’re wearing 🙂
What’s your current profile photo telling employers? If it’s not truly representative of you and your skills, let me leverage good points for you with a new headshot! More than 90% of employers are recruiting through social media, including LinkedIn, with recruiters spending around six seconds per LinkedIn profile—and 19% of that time looking at the profile picture. The last thing you want is to be passed on because you don’t look the part.
Princeton researchers have found that people form an impression of you from your photo in 1/10 of a second. If you want the job, you have to look the part. Recruiters connect with this instantly, and only then will they give your skills and credentials the full weight they deserve.
You spend hours perfecting your cover letter, cutting your resume down to fit on one page (without resorting to using an eight-point font), and prepping for the most common interview questions, so it’s easy to believe that these are the three most important components to recruiters. And, while recruiters do spend quite a lot of time evaluating these items, more than 90% of them are now making their first impressions of applicants through social media accounts.
What does this mean for you? Besides making yourself a desirable candidate through cover letters, resumes and interviews, you should pay just as much attention to how you’re visually presented on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Twitter.
And this doesn’t just apply to people looking for corporate jobs either. Small business owners, such as myself, rely on word-of-mouth as much as we do feeling connected with people who visit our sites. That’s why it’s so important to have updates photos in our About Me sections. Potential clients are, technically, “employers” looking to hire us. So while we may not have resumes and cover letters, our About Me sections are essentially just that.
Every person has 43 distinct facial muscles. There are seven universal facial expressions: happiness, sadness, surprise, fear, anger, contempt and disgust. When you begin to mis these facial expression together, the human face can make more than 10,000 slightly different expressions. Now add matters of dress, grooming, light, camera angles and camera distortion/editing to this complication of microexpressions, and you see how every photo tells a unique story.
So, how can you get a winning profile photo? First, hire a professional. Us pros know what we’re doing when it comes to posing, lighting, angles and editing. And we also take into consideration these other important details:
- Don’t obstruct your eyes: sunglasses make their wearer look 10% less likable. Eye obstruction via hair, glare and shadow didn’t make a difference in likability, but did bring down perceived competency by 15% and influence by 8%. Numbers don’t lie, people.
- Smile with teeth: In regards to making someone like and trust you, smiling with teeth showing has twice the effect of smiling with your moth closed!
- Dress for the job you want: doing so for a photo does wonders for getting you hired, as people perceive you to be 43% more competent and 58% more influential in your industry.
Need some help? Let’s chat – I’d love to help you get hired for your dream job!
Tallahassee Wedding Photographer Wakulla River Wedding intimate backyard wedding.
This gorgeous wedding all came about because a fellow photographer was unavailable for this but reached out a hand in an attempt to find this beautiful couple a photographer for their wedding. And that’s why I love Community Over Competition and the Rising Tide Society. Without those connections, this would have been a missed connection. And I never would have met this gorgeous couple. When I found out this wedding was going to be an intimate gathering at Jim’s family home right along the Wakulla River I couldn’t believe my luck! Not to mention, Jordan was a doll from the start: super excited, bubbly personality and a genuinely grateful soul. And when I arrived at the location, she came outside and greeted me with a big hug – which is how I love meeting all my brides!
I love weddings that are on family properties simply because they’re, well, simple. And that simplicity lends itself to some gorgeous photos, especially on film. When I arrived and started scoping out the “venue” I immediately fell in love with some of their personal touches. The lined up big fan palms along the fence. Their centerpieces were beautiful blue jars and big, bold sunflowers. The twinkle lights strung along the tent made for a romantic ambiance. And Grandma had made some Mayhaw jelly as the favors, which had its own cute display. An aunt was helping put the finishing touches on the tables and a family friend hung the Japanese lanterns.
It’s those little moments that, as a photographer, I get to see and have come to love. They embody the essence of what it means to be married – two families coming together in the name of love. And because I love love it makes me all sentimental. Which is probably why I cry during the ceremony every time.
From a dog in attendance to handwritten vows, there were plenty of elements to make my heart full. But then, once the vows recited, family photos taken and dinner enjoyed – something magical began to happen… fog. Yes, fog. It slowly rolled over the Wakulla River just as twilight hit. Jordan and Jim were relaxing at a table, chatting with family when Tim (my fiance/assistant for the evening) noticed the fog and pointed it out to me. Just one more reason I love that man! I politely interrupted the bride and groom’s conversation, and to my relief Jordan took one look at the fog and ecstatically said “Yes! Let’s go!” so we quickly made our way back down the pier to the pontoon. And I’m so glad we did.
The fog made for some incredibly ethereal images! It made everything seem extremely delicate and light in a way that seems too perfect for this world. Kind of like love, I suppose. Jordan and Jim, and their families, were an absolute delight. Jordan, being the sweet soul that she is, actually made sure we were having a good time! Which I certainly did – it’s hard not to with connections like this. So here’s to Jordan and Jim and their beautiful future together. Thank you for letting me capture the first day of it!
Jordan + Jim’s Wakulla River Wedding